Sibling Interaction and Autism

When Ethan was diagnosed with autism the thought of having another child was the furthest thought from our minds. We were scared that another child would mean another diagnosis as there is a one in five chance that another child would also be on the spectrum. It took time but we always saw ourselves as a four and we decided not to give up on that dream.

When we discussed this with Ethan’s pediatrician she actually advised us not to have any more children. Her reasons being that Ethan wouldn’t notice another sibling because he lives in his own little world. He can’t or wouldn’t show any empathy and don’t even mention the word love. Her parting comment was that she didn’t think I would cope with two children on the spectrum!

Her comments knocked us for six and for a while we listened to her chilling words.

We always discussed our decision and it worried me that we would regret not knowing what our family would be like as a four.

Our family became a four last July, a year ago on Saturday in-fact, and there have been bumpy moments. Ethan cried when Little E was brought home from the hospital but thankfully the next day he wouldn’t leave her alone. Showing her lots of affection whilst we lived on our nerves making sure he wasn’t going to accidentally hurt her.

Their relationship has evolved over this year and Ethan can very much take or leave his sister. Their relationship is very much on his terms but as Little E is getting more mobile she really does make herself known to Ethan. She is always in his space, at times climbing all over him, and he takes it all in his stride.

He won’t give his iPad to her and I can see that causing tension in the future. He also doesn’t like it when he thinks that she is doing something wrong and he is quick to tell on her. This is very funny and even though this has the potential to cause meltdowns I can see that this will teach Ethan a few life lessons along the way.

The best part of being a four is watching the interaction between them. In our eyes a sibling has been the greatest gift to Ethan. The heat-wave confirmed this when we brought out the paddling pool. Last week there was some fantastic interaction and I would even say they ‘played’ together!

His relationship and bond with his sister was really highlighted to us on Sunday when I was able to capture this heartwarming moment.

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8 Comments

  1. 8th July 2015 / 8:39 pm

    Aww! What lovely moments….Ethan has done so well. You can see the love he has for his little sister x

    • Jane - Our Little Escapades
      9th July 2015 / 7:49 pm

      He really has. She really is the best gift we could ever give him x

  2. 9th July 2015 / 9:07 am

    What a beautiful post. I know you won’t regret having Little E for a single second. I think the paediatrician’s words were very harsh. Every family has to do what’s right for the family as a whole and I don’t think a paediatrician should say things like that. X

    • Jane - Our Little Escapades
      9th July 2015 / 7:51 pm

      She was very harsh, she hasn’t see us since but Ethan has an appointment in a few weeks. I really hope we see her again so she can see our beautiful family ;0) x

  3. 9th July 2015 / 8:01 pm

    What a special moment for you. Thanks for sharing! My boys have a very special bond and I believe having a sibling really helps open up their world. #SSAmazingAchievements

    • Jane - Our Little Escapades
      9th July 2015 / 8:04 pm

      It really does, Ethan even started vocalising more when his sister arrived. He had to get out attention ;0)

  4. 14th July 2015 / 5:45 pm

    Lovely moments between your children, I’m so glad you put those harsh words behind you and went ahead to increase your lovely family. Little E has done so much for E, it’s great to see their bond.
    Thanks for linking up with #SSAmazingAchievements x

    • Jane - Our Little Escapades
      17th July 2015 / 4:19 pm

      It did take some time to ignore those comments but I’m so glad we did. She really has been a gift for him x

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