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    My First Child Is Autistic, Should I Have Another Baby?

    Dear paediatrician who diagnosed our son, You advised me not to have anymore children. You said one autistic child would be enough, You were worried that I wouldn’t be able to cope with two children on the spectrum. Those were your words at my son’s six month check up. What you didn’t know is that I had already spent the previous nine months telling myself that Ethan would be our only child. Wondering how I could possibly bring another child into the world that would need extra support. Another child that wouldn’t be able to talk to me. My initial grief in our autism journey was for the child that…

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    Autism and Anxiety

    When Ethan was going through the diagnosis process I was often asked if Ethan suffered from anxiety. The answer to this was always no. In-fact it sometimes felt that Ethan took lots of things in his stride, something that shouldn’t supposedly happen with autism. Since the soft play incident anxiety has reared it’s ugly head. It started with Ethan avoiding Little E and distancing himself from us. Thankfully this was short lived. He now has anxiety issues when going into nursery, it is getting easier but some days you do feel like you are pushing him through the door. Ethan’s main cause of anxiety is other children, brought on by…

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    The Prompt – Age

    I don’t know if it is the Autism diagnosis or just becoming a mum, but age is something that really concerns me now. Age for me means getting older, getting older means we have less time on this planet. Which in turn means that one day we will no longer be here to look after our children. They will be left without us! It’s funny because when you are younger all you want to do is grow up and get older. I remember being so excited when it was my tenth birthday, I had finally hit double digits. Now I don’t really keep track of my age, if someone asks…

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    Discovering Duplo

    I loved lego as a child and when I knew we were having a boy I imagined all of the lego sets we could build together. So duplo was where I knew we needed to start. I brought Ethan his first set when he was one and a half. It was a Winnie The Pooh set, grandad would make small towers with the pieces. Ethan did show an interest, and would work on his colours with grandad so we got him a bigger box of duplo. Ethan never built anything with it and would just watch grandad make the towers and then he would knock them over. Recently we have…

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    To The Bully At Soft Play…

    To the bully at soft play, you are young, five or six, it’s very typical behaviour for you to not let an unknown child in to the ‘den’ that you have made at soft play. Pushing and pinning my son to the wall is not! Our little boy is non-verbal, you may have thought he was ignoring you by not responding, but he could have simply not understood your requests. He also had no way to communicate with you.  Your mum did not seem bothered when we explained to her what had happened and that our son is autistic/non-verbal. In-fact I don’t think she even spoke to you about the…

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